I’m apparently going to grow old. I’m going to grow old, alone, and maybe with lots of cats because I’m…smart? Wait, that can’t be right. I mean okay, I guess I can say I’ve always wondered why it is that there are all these girls walking around with men on their arms who they don’t know Louis Vuitton from Louis the VIII, but in all honesty, Michael Noer is out of his mind (and I’m assuming married to someone who can’t read or tie her shoes without his assistance).
He is saying (and please, you have to read this article for the full effect) that women who have jobs aren’t women you men out there should be marrying. We are, apparently, more likely to cheat, less likely to love you, unwilling to bear your children, and more likely to divorce you, as opposed to say, someone who doesn’t work or care about the fact that they can’t support themselves, and are fine with you being the sole breadwinner.
“…successful men are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure … at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is, the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?”
Yes men, don’t you all just have it so tough.
Word of advice: men need to get over themselves (and read Elizabeth Corcoran’s response). Last I checked marriage is about two people making the decision (albeit somewhat insane) to spend their entire lives together recognizing that life gets in the way and marriage isn’t one smoothly paved road to the Promised Land. There are going to be problems, and in the changing economy where inflation is going to make maintaining our quality of life harder than ever, how can a marriage survive without both parties holding down solid jobs?
If the reality-based truth that marriage is hard work and warrants compromise and understanding isn’t present in your mind when you’re walking down the aisle (or in this case watching your future walking down the aisle towards you) – abort.
“If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy” (Has he given birth?) “They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do” (Since when does making a lot of money make anyone unhappy?) “You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do” (Get over it). “You will be more likely to fall ill” (Successful woman =death?). “Even your house will be dirtier” (Learn to wash your own dishes).
And in case we haven’t gotten to the most offensive part of this man’s column yet, here’s my all time favorite statement:
“The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen his or her mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase that he or she will meet someone more likable than you.”
Does no one really actually love the person they marry anymore? Does no one have restraint or morals or trust? If all of this is true and the person you ‘til-death-do-you-part with just frolics off with the first person who plans the office holiday party with them, then there are greater issues involved here. As in: perhaps you never should have married that person to begin with, 401k and benefits or not.
And let’s not forget some famous couples in history here: Charles cheating on Diana, Bill on Hillary, Donald on Ivana, Frank on Kathie Lee, and the one I think was the worst betrayal in the history of adultery, Woody on Mia with her own daughter.
And we’re the ones being branded with scarlet letters?
This is all really too much. And just in case I wasn’t already on the fence about the whole, with this ring I thee wed business, Michael Noer and his male point of view (and I’m not making a blanket statement here) doesn’t do much to improve my overall opinion.
Because no matter what, I’ll always be the kind of girl who steers clear of $1000 plus priced hand bags.
I guess that like a good job, a good man really is hard to find.
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